Couples Therapy Services

My Approach

I have advanced training in Dr. Stan Tatkin’s Psychobiological Approach To Couples Therapy (PACT). I am a level 2 PACT practitioner. My practice includes ongoing consultation and participation in study groups with a community of PACT trained therapists. PACT therapy is informed by the latest scientifically conclusive research in three domains: affect arousal, attachment theory, and neurobiology.

My work with couples pays special attention to…

• Creating and in-depth mutual understanding of why you and your partner are the way you are. I help couples understand each other’s operating systems. Our behavior, no matter how irrational and harmful it may seem at times, comes from somewhere that makes perfect sense. Early child/caregiver relationships as well as experiences of trauma shape the way we function in adult relationships. Much of the hurt we cause in relationships is our best out of date attempt at responding to perceived threat and keeping ourselves feeling safe. I will help you to work skillfully with these tricky dynamics and understand your partners deepest fears, insecurities, dreams, passions, despairs, and aspirations. As well as the source of all of the above in the interest of helping each other heal and sustain a sense of safety and stability as a couple unit.

• Creating an in-depth working knowledge of your partners body and nervous system. Through realtime practice that at times involves movement, you will learn to understand, sooth, and ultimately harmonize with your partners nervous system. This involves learning to pay attention and respond appropriately to subtly in facial expression, eye contact, voice tone and pace, touch, and body language in a present centered way. We will work through your toughest couple issues in real time while creating this awareness is in my office.

• Learning practical communication skills that will help you resolve and repair quickly from fights, so that you can protect your relationship from excessive unhelpful stress and resentments. Conflict is an absolutely necessary part of any healthy relationship. I will help you do it well.

• Renewing a sense of loving connection, novelty, and fun. While the intense high of the romantic courtship phase of your relationship may feel like its long passed, and with good reason (it would be exhausting to maintain long term), it is imperative that couples learn to continually cultivate joy and and mystery with each other. I help you create your own map for doing so and support you in reinvigorating play in my office. Therapy can and should be fun at its best.

  
  

My approach is moreover guided by my lived personal experiences of struggle and success in committed partnership. I have unwittingly caused and received plenty of harm on my way to learning to love as an adult man. I understand your pain at a felt level and am living proof of the growth that can happen in relationships where partners are willing to put in the work.

I work with all couples—I do not discriminate for any reason whatsoever. I have experience with many types of non-traditional couples, and I believe that my methods apply well to difficulties faced by any couple, regardless of how they define themselves or their relationships.

Fees & Insurance

I am not currently an in-network provider for any insurance companies, however I will provide a superbill to submit to your insurance company upon request. My rates are 200 dollars hourly. I offer 60, 90, and 120 minute couples sessions.

Therapy Sessions